I was watching this TV show called Younger, and how the lead character Liza Miller, at 40, falls for a twenty six year old.
My super orthodox Mum pointed out that was super crazy because the guy was fifteen years younger. So I told her about this person I know that has always dated guys more than half a decade younger than she happened to be at that point. And how people would say mean stuff like “She likes her meat young!” What the badooshes does that even mean!? And my Mum just rolled her eyes. I kid you not.
It’s love. It’s a relationship. It’s not a research paper.
Or is it?
So I asked Mum why did she find it so awkward. She obviously freaked out, and the first thing she wanted to know was if I happened to be dating someone half my age. I was very strongly tempted to say Yes Mum, I’m a pedophilic girlfriend, but refrained. You know, with being in her good books and all.
She threw some weird logic my way.
Apparently, the mental age of an eighteen year old girl is the same as the mental age of a twenty one year old dude. This basically means that girls mature faster emotionally as well. Does this also mean that in order for you and your boyfriend to see eye to eye, there needs to be a three year age gap, minimum?
I told her that it was a stupid logic. She gave me the eye. (Mum needs to stop doing this. It still makes me want to pee my pants.) How many of you agree with my Mommykins?
In my opinion, however, age is seriously just a number. How does it affect relationships if you’re with a younger guy? Or if your guy is twenty years your senior? I thought love, and shenanigans, come with no boundaries. And there’s this other thing. Marriage. Babies. Everyone in India makes a giant deal out of it. I’m almost 25, and my relatives are fake-panicking. When I have kids at age thirty plus, I will smack the doctor that tells me I’m a super old Mommy, cause I’d be a fun Mommy. Never mind how old. Besides, I don’t want to grow up. I wanna stay
fourteen twenty four, for now.
(Note to self: You know you’re finally a grown up when you can actually make your own decisions and get rid of the jerk magnet on your forehead.)
Have you dated an older woman? Or a younger guy? What’s your take on this?